Trauma-informed Therapist + Coach. Hitchin SG5 + Online
07814 565835
WELCOME
You've hit Midlife/Perimenopause/Menopause and just when supposedly everything's meant to be 'sorted', you actually feel like you're falling apart? You're questioning your identity, your place in the world and wondering what the hell your purpose is?
Brene Brown says:
"Midlife is not a crisis. Midlife is an unraveling............
Midlife is when the universe gently places her hands upon your shoulders, pulls you close, and whispers in your ear:
I’m not screwing around. All of this pretending and performing—these coping mechanisms that you’ve developed to protect yourself from feeling inadequate and getting hurt—has to go. Your armor is preventing you from growing into your gifts. I understand that you needed these protections when you were small. I understand that you believed your armor could help you secure all of the things you needed to feel worthy and lovable, but you’re still searching and you’re more lost than ever. Time is growing short. There are unexplored adventures ahead of you. You can’t live the rest of your life worried about what other people think. You were born worthy of love and belonging. Courage and daring are coursing through your veins. You were made to live and love with your whole heart. It’s time to show up and be seen."
There's a BIG gift for you in this unravelling. If you respond to the call to finally go there, you can heal some of those old wounds that you've been covering up until now, when all the filters seem to have come OFF! So many women come to me at this time of life ready to look at the source of their wounds because they want to shed the old coping strategies, change their behaviours and clear out the layers of gunge that are no longer serving them. Drop the armour. Know your worth. Feel confident and courageous. Sometimes, we might need to raze the old structures to the ground, before we can rebuild the new and I can help you do that.
Trauma is an invisible force that shapes our lives. It shapes the way we live, the way we love and the way we make sense of the world. It is the root of our deepest wounds.
Gabor Mate
Know that YOU ARE NOT BROKEN. It can certainly feel like it when you feel shattered, or fragmented into many parts, or less than, but know there is a part of you that is always whole and complete. Trauma isn't what happens to you, but what happens inside of you and those fragmented parts can be healed, gently and safely.
ABOUT ME
Hi, I'm Becky. I've been a therapist and coach for 20 years now. I have always been fascinated by people, firstly as a child, feeling like I was on the outside looking in, watching and observing, trying to work out how people got on with each other. It wasn't so obvious to me! Then I studied acting and performed for many years, relishing this new opportunity to focus on a character's psyche and delight in being given clear lines to say - so much easier than real life it seemed. A theatre company I worked for used NLP in the rehearsal room and this sparked an interest in the next level of trying to understand how humans work. I trained in Cognitive Hypnotherapy at The Quest Institute out of curiosity at first, then fell in love with all things psychology + neuroscience. This was REALLY getting under the bonnet of why people do what they do. Since then I have added many other trainings and qualifications over the years in coaching, parts work, EFT, Supervision, Advanced EMDR and Gabor Mate's approach Compassionate Inquiry. I believe we need to incorporate both brain and body in order to heal, working cognitively and somatically, with the conscious and the unconscious. In my spare time, I love chucking myself into rivers and lakes, long walks with Buster (see below) and getting my theatre fix.
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THIS IS BUSTER
Buster likes to think he adds something to sessions, but this isn't always the case. His breath smells and sometimes barks at inconvenient times, so he mostly stays at home these days. He hates having his picture taken so the fact this one exists is just the excuse needed to put it out in the world. Like all dogs, he can see into your soul.
“We have learned that trauma is not just an event that took place sometime in the past; it is also the imprint left by that experience on mind, brain, and body. This imprint has ongoing consequences for how the human organism manages to survive in the present. Trauma results in a fundamental reorganization of the way the mind and brain manage perceptions. It changes not only how we think and what we think about, but also our very capacity to think.”
Bessel Van Der Kolk
CONTACT ME
Book your complimentary (online or in-person) Discovery Session. We get to meet each other, have a good old chinwag + see if we're a good fit to work together. This is 100% no strings attached opportunity to see if/how I could help you.
Hitchin SG5 + Online
07814 565835
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